This has been Raspberry a lot lately. These pictures are gleaned from the past three to four weeks. When she gets upset for any reason, she curls herself up into a ball, face in hands. It takes a bit to coax her out, if at all. She’s quite stubborn, and because she has similarly stubborn parents, sometimes she remains in a ball for quite a while, until her face is all sticky and snotty and her hair is matted to her forehead and eyes. She usually won’t say why she’s upset — god knows we’ve tried to extract an explanation a million times — but often, it’s about something she’s vehemently opposed to (like putting on her shirt or pulling up her pants by herself) or it’s the message or tone of voice she takes as a personal attack (I think, anyway). Tonight, I was doing the dishes and I thought she was waiting for me to be done and occupying herself with her pre-bedtime books in the meantime. When I went into the bedroom, I found her curled up in a ball. I guess I mustn’t have heard her getting upset. Sigh. There have been way too many of these instances lately. Someone bring me a happy child, please?


6 responses

  1. Sophie’s been doing a lot of this too. Immediately throws herself on the floor every time we say No to her. Quite annoying.

    Btw… She didn’t know how to react when she heard Simon crying in the same room. She ran off and sat on the floor with her back to the wall. Bizarre behavior!

    February 9, 2012 at 4:32 pm

  2. What is it about toddlers/preschoolers doing that?! It drives me mental. We used to try to get her to uncurl herself, but these days, because she does it so often, we usually just leave her so she can calm down and then try going to her again later.

    Has Sophie had experience with other newborns? Maybe she was stunned by the crying, since newborn crying sounds very different from older kid crying? How are all of you doing?

    February 11, 2012 at 1:57 am

  3. It’s been a difficult few days trying to adjust to Simon’s sleep habits and feeding. But it’s been just five days(!?) Just now I felt it necessary for him to sleep with a pacifier, even though Nin is a bit leery about starting that whole thing so early. But he’s a fussy sleeper, and we need some rest, too, so I’ve decided to try it for one night…see how it goes.

    February 11, 2012 at 5:31 am

  4. I’d be wary about offering a pacifier too, due to nipple confusion. I’ve heard that you can introduce a pacifier around six weeks, when breastfeeding has been established.

    Have you guys tried co-sleeping? Babies (and parents) sleep a lot better when they’re co-sleeping. The babies gravitate toward another body and sleep a lot more soundly and often don’t cry as much during the night. I used to really hate waking in the middle of the night to feed Raspberry and then we started co-sleeping and we all got a lot more sleep. For my part, I didn’t have to be fully conscious to lift up my shirt to nurse her and it worked out well all round.

    February 11, 2012 at 2:49 pm

  5. Nina tried breastfeeding, but it was hard on her because Simon wouldn’t open wide enough and would slide down onto Nin’s nipple and hurt her. She’s decided to pump her milk instead and give it to him in a bottle. As for co-sleeping, it might work, but then he might get too attached and won’t want to sleep on his own later. We have a friend who’s having this problem with her daughter. I guess there is no perfect solution for everything when caring for baby or raising a child, huh?

    February 12, 2012 at 9:10 pm

  6. Sorry to hear that breastfeeding’s difficult. Hopefully it’ll improve soon.

    I think it’s possible to initially co-sleep and then gradually transition an older baby to a crib. Have you heard of the idea of a fourth trimester? It’s a concept from Dr Harvey Karp (who did the Happiest Baby on the Block book, which was a bit of a lifesaver for us early on), part of which involves the idea that newborns require constant touch, to mimic their experience in the womb. Co-sleeping is one of the ways that can ease a newborn into infanthood. Anyway, here’s a link ( if you’re interested. Anyway, I hope you guys find something that works for you!

    February 13, 2012 at 4:44 am

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